My Mom: no, I’m ugly. The ugliest. I’m a horrible pig of a person
Other people: (to me) you look just like your mom
Me: so I’m ugly
Now:
My 9 year old: mom you’re beautiful
Me: thank you! I don’t always see it very well in myself though because my brain lies to me a lot and tells me I’m ugly even though I’m not. But I can’t be ugly because we look a lot alike and you’re beautiful. My brain is just a bully
My kid: that’s right! We’re BOTH beautiful!
Me: yes we are!
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And that my friends is called thinking about how your self depricating words can hurt other people around you. I can’t see that I’m beautiful most of the time but I can acknowledge that the issue is my ability to see myself in a positive way.
But calling myself ugly just hurts the people who love me. It could even convince my kid that they are also ugly and further the cycle
And sometimes it’s really hard just by saying “I’m being mean to myself because my brain lies a lot matters
My daughter: “mama, your belly is chubby.”
Me, internally: ouch
Me, out loud: “well, yeah! Because I am chubby! But also because I grew TWO WHOLE BABIES in it, and that stretched it out a bit!”
My daughter, in the most encouraging tone possible as she reaches up and pets my belly: “it did SUCH a good job.”
Some of you have never gotten all your books confiscated by your third grade teacher because you were reading them under your desk in math class and it shows
Gryffindor: Super bold. Has no filter. Does stupid shit constantly. Loves pranks. Irresponsible and impulsive. Is a protector of friends
Slytherin: Hates Gryffindor. Sly. Good liar. Pretty evil, is always in the shadows. Quiet. Plotting a murder at any given minute. Hates surprises.
Ravenclaw: Super smart. The responsible one in any situation. Will do anything to pass an exam, knows the answer to most questions. Stiff and reads three full length novels for “light reading”
Hufflepuff: Pushovers. Pansies. Loves all the hugs. Shy, loving cookies is somehow a personality trait. Is kind and trusting to everyone. Is a cute squishy bean who needs to be protected.
Houses in reality:
Gryffindor: Is careful about what they say unless someone insults their friend. Only does stupid things if they’re overly curious about what would happen. Worries constantly about their friends and if they’re doing something dangerous they try to talk them out of it or at least make it safer for them.
Slytherin: Cunning. Is actually fairly good friends with Gryffindor and they have a playful rivalry. They don’t really look before they leap but they do stupid shit all the time just because someone told them they couldn’t. Loves surprises and is F I E R C E
Ravenclaw: Most times their brain is fried from pulling all nighters and researching things completely useless to them. Will burst into tears if exams are mentioned, is the real protector of anyone who is close to them. Hates reading for school. “If you’re gonna do [insert stupid thing] I’m gonna do it too”. Intimidating
Hufflepuff: Only hug this person if they specifically say you can hug them. Is either perfect at baking or will burn the house down, there’s no in between. Evaluates everyone with intensity before trusting them. Loves fantasy worlds. If anyone hurts those they love all hell will break loose; badgers have claws and sharp teeth.
