sierra
(sierrasanator)

“Be curious, not judgmental.” -Ted Lasso

27 / Florida

sdrawberrii-mochii:

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more pretty tummies <3

queeranarchism:

close2home:

indieninja92:

tikkunolamorgtfo:

damnfool-of-a-took:

becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys:

loverbear-butch:

loverbear-butch:

loverbear-butch:

just saw a post where someone put “detrans dni” and like… hey we should be supporting detransitioned people bc if we don’t terfs will

sometimes you’re wrong about your identity and that’s ok like i used to think i was bi but it turns out i was wrong and i know ppl who thought they were trans but it turns out they were wrong and it should be ok and accepted that sometimes people don’t get it right on the first try

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@shadowknight1224 this is an excellent way of putting it thank you

This touches on something I have felt for a long time, which is that one of the reasons rigid queer labels and gatekeeping is so dangerous is because if you want to encourage people to explore their gender/sexuality, there has to be a safe “Actually I was wrong” option.

I went through so very much anxiety coming out, and when I really think about it it was squarely from the fear of being wrong about it all. That I was, at heart, a cishet woman, and therefore I was appropriating a label that didn’t ‘belong’ to me, and I would (somehow) be harming other people by doing so. There’s so much more unnecessary pressure if the sword hanging over your head is “But you do have to be right about this, you can’t back out once you’ve even asked the question.”

I think that is Bad. I think it makes fewer people ask the question. I think that includes those who need to ask, and would be much happier for it.

to summarize: one of the things the Q stands for is QUESTIONING

and that is as it should be

I’d like to also submit the possibility that some people may be more prone to shifts in their gender identity than others, and that it’s not necessarily even a case of being “wrong,” so much as it’s a case of just changing over time. I know the predominant narrative we see in discourse is that a person who transitions was never their agab—and I’m sure that’s true for a lot of people! But… it’s not true everyone? I remember reading an interview with Danny Lavery after he came out, and he said something along the lines of “One day, I went to bed a woman and woke up not a woman anymore.” So if a person can change once, who’s to say that can’t change again? For example, I know Eddie Izzard (whose labels have shifted a lot over the decades, as terminology and options for gender identities identity have changed many times over since the 1980s) has said she goes through long block periods of being a particular gender, so right now she’s “based in girl mode,” (her words) but she’s previously had blocks of time being based in “boy mode,” too. So like, whose to say other people don’t have block periods like that? Maybe somebody really was non-binary for ten years and now they’re not anymore, y’know? Not feeling something about yourself forever doesn’t have to mean you were wrong the whole time. Of course, being wrong is okay too! But I’d make room for both.

i LOVE this addition, especially because it helps us move away from the “ive always known” narrative that dominates so much trans space. sometimes your gender literally changes, and it’s not helpful or healthy of us to act like that means everything that came before was false or mistaken.

Gender Fluid Vibes… Nice!

Oh look, it’s me! Like, my gender has definitely changed over time and while it seems to have settled as queer/indefinable for a decade now, it might change again one day and I could end up identifying with a binary gender again. 

And can I get a shout out for the people who transition more than once and still identify as trans even though the pronouns/gender they ended up in might be somewhat similar to the one that were assigned at birth? Y’all are beautiful. Keep on being great.

hera-the-wizard:

hera-the-wizard:

when observed, are you…

a wave?

a particle?

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oh my god you’re so right

philosophybitmaps:
““What keeps all living things busy and in motion is the striving to exist. But when existence is secured, they do not know what to do: that is why the second thing that sets them in motion is a striving to get rid of the burden of...

philosophybitmaps:

“What keeps all living things busy and in motion is the striving to exist. But when existence is secured, they do not know what to do: that is why the second thing that sets them in motion is a striving to get rid of the burden of existence, not to feel it any longer, ‘to kill time’, i.e. to escape boredom.” – Arthur Schopenhauer, The World as Will and Representation

affableidiot:

When your most recent hyperfixation is fading without a new one to replace it but your sanity hinges on constant distraction ✨

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Ew I’ve been thrust into being PRESENT in my OWN LIFE 💀

akindplace:

Listen, it’s imperative that when things get really overwhelming in your own mind that you do something nice as a distraction instead of keeping on ruminating those thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, it can be practicing mindfulness, sometimes it can be reading a book, watching a movie, taking a shower, going on a walk. If you’re too tired, try listening to some music, watching a short video, looking up pictures of dogs or playing something on your phone. Our thoughts can become a lot to handle, and sometimes sitting through them can’t be done without feeling like you’re focusing too much on the source of stress itself, so finding a positive distraction to help you “get out of your head” is so important. It’s feels nice to remind yourself that there is a whole world outside of yourself and that focusing too much on your own thoughts will only make you more anxious instead of solving any problems (and many times, you will find better solutions on the outside world, or at least, you will find help).

macrolit:

“Why are we embarrassed by silence? What comfort do we find in all the noise?”

Mitch Albom

bisexualmindcabin:

Rewatched The Good Place for the first time since s4 dropped and. Oh my god. The Good Place said “people are a result of their environment but we always have a moral responsibility to be better” and The Good Place said “every day the world gets a little more complicated and it gets a little harder to be good” and The Good Place said “even in the face of total nihilism, when nothing you do will matter, you still have to at least try. Because trying is better than the alternative” and The Good Place said “if you have bills to pay and shit to deal with you don’t have time or energy to become a better person” and then The Good Place really said “people get better when they get external love and support. How can we hold it against them when they don’t ” and THEN The Good Place really said “no one is irredeemable. Everyone can try to be better today than they were yesterday” AND THEN! The Good Place said “Heaven is just enough time with the people that you love” OH MY FUCKING GOD.

imperial-nuisance-rudje:

the-kestrels-feather:

funnytwittertweets:

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#the final days were upon us #and then it was thursday again

nessa007:

#roy and keeley starting the season with one of them looking at the other while the other isn’t #to them both looking back at each other and keeley smiling at roy #please tell me they’re coming back to me now
TED LASSO (3x03 | 3x09)

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